DISCLOSURE: I am not a mother and/or guardian. The following is just my opinion based on my life experiences.
MTV has a show called 16 and Pregnant. I’ve watched a few episodes where I saw the expected. Disillusioned parents, daddy drama, not going to prom, dropping out of school and not hanging out with friends anymore.
These things are difficult for any kid, but there are some things that are devastating. Hearing your parent say that you have 30 days after giving birth to leave her home is insanely callous and potentially dangerous.
Then parents conveniently forget their role in this situation. These thing rarely occur in a vacuum. How much attention did the teen mom get? Was the self-righteous parent really ready to be a parent? It is an epidemic that goes from generation to generation.
Why do teens have sex? It makes them feel euphoric, important, loved and cherished. How do their parents make them feel? You better clean your room … or else. You’re failing English?! Only an idiot fails English! I don’t like your friends. They look like zombies and say the stupidest things.
Why not help them clean their room and do other chores? It can be a bonding experience. They’re failing because you don’t monitor or help them. If you call them stupid, they’ll believe you and lower their own bar.
Their friends are the ones that care, accept and bring joy to their lives. Don’t belittle their 2nd (maybe 1st) family. Without good friends, suicide looks like a reasonable option.
Rape, murder and physical brutality are all horrific vile things. Hormonal teens who have sex and get pregnant did not commit an unforgivable sin. Abandoning your child she needs you the most is unforgivable. If your child still has dreams to pursue, support them!
Your child did not ask to be born. So why do you punish them for ruining your nap or failing to make your friends jealous. It is your obligation to support, nurture, protect and education them. Did you do your job? How close did you come?