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Work Harder

Posted: April 22, 2017 in Children, Family, Health, Life, Love, Politics, Religion, sex, Society, women

I just finished watching a documentary on the abortion issue. It was very fair because it gave all sides a chance to express their views. Still I was left feeling slighted. I thought about the Pro-Choicers having to explain themselves at various angles, but not Pro-Lifers.

Why do women get abortions? It is an arduous and heartbreaking ordeal for anyone. Often it is for financial reasons, can’t handle another baby or she’s a teen with no assets. Let’s talk about her for a moment. More than likely, her mother is the sole supporter. Mom works at least two job. That scenario equals little to no supervision.

Teen love birds now have access to a sex pad because mom is working. Girl is willing to have sex because she feels abandoned by dad and mom is never around.
Now Pro-Lifers want to call this girl a whore because she can’t have a baby grow in her body and give it away after 9 months.

Did these Pro-Lifers shame this girl’s father? After all he refused to be a man and raise this young mother? Did these Pro-Lifers lobby Congress to raise the minimum wage so that mothers can have just one job so they can raise their kids? Do Pro-Lifers lobby for people that want to adopt, but can’t?

If Pro-Lifers want to save lives they need to save the mother’s life before she gets pregnant. EDUCATION!! This is the key! Kids must be taught before puberty. Adults need to report sexualized activity with young kids. Men have to teach boys how to be good men.
It is a biological fact that puberty happens. We all went through it. It’s ridiculous to ignore or shame kids for going through it. They need help and adults have a job to do.



Posted: August 1, 2014 in Bipolar, Health, Life, Love, mental health, women

July 27th was my birthday and no, I will not say my age. I’m middle-aged and that’s all I’ll divulge. Am I vain? Yes. Absolutely.

I had a lovely birthday complete with gifts, well wishes, yummy food and affection. I was taken care of by all who love me.

The aftermath is always strange and fuzzy. I’m in an awkward state for a few days. Then I do my life assessment – accomplishments and failures. This is dangerous, but I do it anyway.

When will it all end? Bipolar is forever. Hysterectomy – am I really a woman? Knee replacement surgery is forthcoming. Until then pain and fear is a staple in every step I take.

On the flip side, I have gone on amazing trips with my lovely husband. I can speak Spanish. I have two blogs. And I have a lot of good people who love me.

Why do I do this to myself? Maybe I want to lob my own stones at my own house. I’ve been doing this all my life. Judging myself is the place where I hide.

I don’t hide all the time, but birthdays are a trigger. I think reaching physical and mental balance is like scaling Mt. Everest. Sadly, I don’t want a Sherpa.


Yes. It’s that time again. Your beloved bipolar is in a list making mood. The topic? It’s incredibly contrived but my lithium has yet to kick in. What all, most, more than ten women want.

1. To make more money than men – no need to explain.

2. The perfect bra – this is such a big deal. Bras have stabbed, chafed and bound helpless breasts for centuries. They should be pretty, soft and supportive,

3. A world where every man is circumcised – A short circumcised penis trumps a huge uncircumcised penis every day of the week. Just being honest.

4. A way to make men get pregnant – After 9 months they are then qualified to pass laws and opinions on reproductive rights.

6. To own a pair of Manolo Blahniks (shoes) – even if you can’t wear them you can place it in a crystal case and show it to your friends.

7. No matter how conservative a woman can be she still wants at least one gay friend and/or hairdresser. You can’t fight it. It’s nature. Gays complete you – thanks Jerry McGuire.

8. The complete eradication of yeast infections, UTIs and cramps – If we get this the world gets a kickass nirvana.

9. A real man with a job, his own place and never borrows money from anyone.

10. Honesty – for some reason men and women have a hard time with this. Maybe it’s because vulnerability is involved. I get it. Its tough. Still, it is what women want.

My topic for today is being a woman. I’ve been one my whole life (ha ha) and have much to say about this matter. Bear in mind that I can only speak on this matter from my first hand experiences.

I truly believe that every woman has the little mean girl lurking inside her. She may not come out that often, but she’s there. Women have ended lasting friendships based on jealousy alone.

If two girlfriends go out and only one gets all the male attention and the other gets dismissed, the rejected one will end the friendship by ignoring her friend or fabricating a story to use as an excuse.

Another phenomenon is when women in power allow or participate in injustices against other women. And these women aren’t necessarily malicious. So why do they stand-by without acting? Fear? Self preservation? Or maybe they try to justify wrong behavior at any cost.

On YouTube I saw a clip of a female judge (master) watching an innocent woman being arrested. The mother had just been sexually assaulted by the marshall.

On the flip side, women are capable of amazing things and extraordinary compassion. Lovingly raising a child conceived in rape and not for religious reasons. Relinquishing or risking your own life to save the life of another is not an issue for many women.

A few years ago I worked as a hospice volunteer. Sadly, I didn’t have the mental fortitude to stay. There were women that did hair and nails for the patients. Others (myself included) delivered fresh flowers. I had one patient that loved orange soda. I, of course, bought her plenty.

We can all be petty and understanding, stingy and generous, bitchy and thoughtful. And by we, I mean men and women. You just have to focus on the best part of you. The part that you’ve always been proud of.





Fall Back

Posted: July 9, 2014 in Life, Men, sex, Society, women

It always amazes me how fickle and manipulative women can be. Yes, I include myself in this circle. Why do guys follow their unfair lead? I see examples of these traits everywhere and especially in nail salons.

If intellect and logic don’t work try whining, cleavage or sexual pouting. Women learn early that men are mostly penis and the hint of sex is enough to sway them.

When I was in middle school and high school I used this advantage on my male teachers. Not liking your grades? There’s an app for that!  It was all covertly flirtatious and harmless on the surface. I knew it was wrong, but it worked.

My mother often drove her kids from Los Angeles to Torreon, Mexico in a VW Rabbit. It would overheat quite a bit. She would hail down a truck driver and pout while saying ” Oh my goodness. What will I do”.  Driver goes into rescue mode and my mom dubs him her savior.

I know a girl who was stringing a guy along (no sex) and getting him to buy her anything for years. And yes, she had a boyfriend she was screwing at the same time. What did puppy dog get? He got a face full of huge boobs and being the eternal butt of her insulting jokes.

Maybe this is why women in the middle east are required to cover everything but their eyes. The men don’t want to get played. I’ve seen many beautiful Arab and Persian women. The guys wouldn’t stand a chance. 

I realize that everyone uses their assets consciously and unconsciously, I guess I resent the overt and repetitive way some women always rely on such tactics. You’re bright! Why play the dumb booby blond girl? And guys need to look at eyes more often.




There are things in I wish could happen at least once in my life. Am I wrong for wanting this?

I want ALL WOMEN to stop calling themselves females. The word female is an adjective not a noun! It describes. Example: Female doctor, female officer, female cat. Got it?

I want every Jehovah Witness to have their doorbell incessantly rung by conversion-seeking Muslims, Sikhs, Jews and Catholics (preferably Irish Catholics … they don’t play).

I want IRS agents to get obscenely audited. I mean go all the way back to their McDonald’s gig!

I want every mayor in America to ride the bus for two weeks, one in the summer and one in the dead of winter.

I want every slumlord in America to be sentenced to 30 days in a Tijuana or Cuidad Juarez barrio. I know it’s in Mexico but this is my wish list.

I want the head of TSA, Homeland Security and U.S. Customs to stand in line at the airport or cross the border with all the appropriate documentation.

I want a better mental healthcare system that prevents homeless vets and mass shootings. Most prisons are ridiculously housing the mentally ill and then spitting them into the street with a few pills!

I want every member of the NRA and their political whores to assist in performing the autopsies of every innocent child killed by gun violence.

I want every single sex offender to be sentenced to following: publicly (high traffic area) made to wear a sandwich board listing his crimes for 24 hours. The rest of his sentence can be served in general population.

Lastly, I want to find a way to forgive the selfish, arrogant, bigoted and heartless people in the world. I know that can included myself in that list. Please forgive me, God.


I’m in a very preachy mood. So if it you don’t want to hear it (or read it), move on to something else. I won’t be offended. The bee in my bonnet today is how women and men behave in alleged relationships.  So here are the guidelines:

Ladies, first –

Stop belittling or berating your man! I know you think its all in good fun, but it’s not. Making your man feel like a loser in front of anybody is not cool. Period.

Stop using sex to get things from the mall, online or your hair done. If he doesn’t have the money, don’t make him use his credit card, parents or buddies.

Stop flirting with every man he knows or doesn’t know. You know you do it. I’ve seen girls flirt with their boyfriends’ fathers. Shame on you!

Do not have sex with another guy to punish your man for cheating. Just break up with him. I mean really break up with him. No Facebook, tweeting, texting, blogging, calls or driving by his house. Just move on.

Your turn, guys

Do not move in with her. Unless you’re engaged (that means a ring on her finger and date set), you do not need to live with her. Dating and living together are worlds apart.

If you lost your job, owe money to the IRS, have bad credit or a criminal record, do not hide it from her. Your lies will only get bigger and it will blow up in your face. Besides, honesty and trust is a byproduct of love.

If you think she’s cheating on you, break up.  No Facebook, tweeting, texting, blogging, calls or driving by her house. Just move on. Yup. Same as the ladies.

If you don’t love her anymore, say so. If she can’t handle being your friend, leave her alone. It’s her choice not yours.

If your buddies have terms like bros before hoes when referring to you girlfriend, they’re not your friends. They’re guys who don’t want you in a happily committed relationship. Never let anyone disrespect your lady.

Something to think about people. Please grow up. You will not be young forever.